We have heard time and time again how important our Environment is to our success.

How closely are we willing to look at who in our environment is keeping us growing and who is keeping us from growing?

This one basic thing, will make or break our success.

Doubt or Certainty

As social beings we are influenced. Not only with picking up another’s vibration,  <happy, mad, sad, bad….>  but also mimicking another.

We do it sometimes without thinking. All the more reason to take caution of who we allow into our social environments.

People really can make or break you. It is vital to determine who to allow in our company or who to remove.

There are two types of people in the world:

Ones with good intentions

and

Ones with bad intentions.

I can imagine we all have the goal to steer clear of the ones with bad intentions, however, most often, the people with bad intentions stay hidden well enough to cause all kinds of havoc before we discover them.

Let’s take a closer look at this.

Think about when you were  a child (or perhaps you have had this experience as a parent of your child) and remember a time there was a fight between you and someone else.  Each time this occurred, whether you noticed it or now, there was someone in the mix stirring up the trouble.  They would have been whispering to your friend or whispering to you, but spreading negative thoughts, nonetheless, to stir up trouble.

Thank Goodness our world is filled with mostly people with good intentions!

It is true, however, that the small percentage of people with bad intentions have a dramatic impact.

Anytime there is a argument, a fight, a conflict, an upset of any kind, whether with children, teens OR adults…  there is someone in the mix, usually NOT present, who has stirred up the trouble.

Someone who is secretly and maliciously  planting thoughts, whispering negative comments, basically creating chaos in the background.  This person has bad intentions and will usually place themselves around people who have good intentions; almost as if there very existence comes from feeding off the positive; they weave their venomous web over another.  Almost trance like, the person who has no malicious intent what so ever, is pinned as the trouble maker… while the Silent, Covert, Evil Weaver, slyly smiles with victory.

I see this occur far too often and I see it be the reason a person does not have the results they are seeking.

When one is experiencing a rollercoaster effect in their business and in their life, it is evident someone in their environment is at fault.

A few simple steps to follow when there is an upset to determine who should stay and who should go:

1 .  Who is the source of the information?

Simply discovering where the information originated, is not only the only way to go, it also demonstrate to those around you what you expect in your environment of success.  Doing so will also reveal a re-occuring theme, in which to know whom should be removed from this sacred environment.

2.  Get all parties involved into the conversation to handle it.

No matter how big or small the issue, the way to build a solid environment of success is to bring all participants into the conversation.   The way a person responds to your request for clarity will be very revealing.  People who are doing things maliciously or with harmful intentions, do not like to be called out on it.  In fact, they will do anything they can to stay hidden.  The ones that won’t come around to get all the facts on the table are typically the ones that have been silently creating the trouble for the others, hence it becomes obvious.

3.  Stick with the facts.

Any time you find someone who is telling lies, stealing, cheating, lieing or worse than that.. you have an outside party influencing these actions.  Often times the person at fault with the bad intentions is the least likely candidate.  If you are willing to listen, you will discover the truth and better yet,  you will be able to weed out the re-occurring trouble source.

4.  Who is worthy of your company?

Going into the conversation where there is an upset, it’s important to keep your purpose in mind.  You are not there to accuse, nor to be the judge and jury.  You are there to determine who it is that is on your journey to assist you and who it is that you should part ways with.

When we keep this in mind,  we can stay on the UPWARD Spiral of life!

Exactly where we deserve to be!